Changing the Narrative: Conquering Negative Self-Talk
It comes as no surprise that neurodivergents can be more prone to negative self-talk than other people. It is important to recognize the power of changing the narrative and embracing positive affirmations.
No, I’m not saying to incorporate that “toxic positivity.” In fact, I am encouraging you to break free from the grip of self-criticism and foster a more nurturing relationship with yourself.
The Power of Affirmations:
Positive affirmations are potent tools for reshaping the narrative around your neurodivergence. These affirmations act as positive anchors in the sea of self-doubt. Some affirmations I use personally include, “I am growing every day” and “I am capable.” By consistently repeating affirmations, we can rewire our brains, creating new neural pathways that foster self-empowerment.
Affirmations go beyond mere positivity; they remind you daily of your strengths and capabilities. As we embrace and internalize these positive messages, they build a foundation for self-esteem and resilience, countering the pervasive negativity that seeps in as we try to exist in a world that wasn’t built for us.
Embracing Self-Compassion:
Self-compassion is a cornerstone in the journey of changing the narrative around neurodivergence, and especially ADHD. It involves acknowledging that everyone, regardless of their neurodivergence, deserves kindness and understanding.
By incorporating self-compassion into our daily lives, we can create a space for acceptance and resilience. Embracing the understanding that our neurodivergence is a part of who we are, not a measure of our worth, empowers us to navigate challenges with a gentle approach.
Understanding the Shame Spiral:
The shame spiral is an insidious aspect of negative self-talk, creating a cycle that is challenging to break. It often begins with a mistake or perceived failure, triggering feelings of inadequacy and self-blame. Recognizing the shame spiral is crucial, and practicing self-compassion becomes essential.
How would you support a friend in a shame spiral? What would you tell them? Think of this instead of succumbing to self-blame, as it can help us acknowledge our challenges with empathy and understanding.
Cultivating a Growth Mindset:
A growth mindset complements affirmations and self-compassion by encouraging us to view challenges as opportunities for learning and development. Embracing the belief that abilities can be developed through dedication and effort fosters resilience in the face of neurodivergence-related obstacles. Personally, I feel like this is easier said than done. But that doesn’t change the evidence of how a growth mindset can positively affect our approach to challenges.
We must recognize that setbacks are not permanent failures but stepping stones toward progress. A growth mindset encourages us to approach difficulties with curiosity and perseverance.
Changing the narrative of negative self-talk involves a holistic approach that includes positive affirmations, recognition of the shame spiral, and the cultivation of a growth mindset. Adding self-compassion to this toolkit provides a balm for the wounds of self-criticism and creates a foundation for a more nurturing relationship with yourself. Remember, kindness to yourself is not only a choice but a powerful and transformative practice.
